I'm back again. So soon? Yes.
I'm at work and should be working on homework too. Surprise!
The questions floating in my head need to come out in text I guess.
How do you know someone is the right person? Some people say you just know but I have not experienced something like that. I pick apart everything and find all the negative aspects and try to think about it critically. So if all I can see is the negatives and I have to question starting a relationship with someone, is it the wrong person? A friend told me that if I can't see growing old with someone then I shouldn't date that person. I feel like I don't know this person well enough to picture growing old with them. Being out of the dating game for a while has got me a little confused.
At this point the lack of sleep I have been getting is making it hard for me to even sort out my thoughts on this page. So I apologize if this sounds scatter brained.
Basically I find myself kind of emotionally retarded. For a girl I am pretty emotionally detached from essentially everything. Seeing tears in my eyes is a rare occurrence and should be documented to show that I'm not a cold heartless bitch. I couldn't even tell you how the walls have been built up over the years but one explanation may come from my tendency to be independent and head strong. I detest being out of control of things and I am always taking a step back to look at a situation with a point of view that is as level headed as possible. This might be thought of as a good thing but to quote Bertrand Russell, "Of all forms of caution, caution in love is perhaps the most fatal to true happiness." I keep this quote on my facebook just to remind me to be less cautious. However, I find it beneficial to keep a good perspective on both sides of the story.
Next question. If you don't know if a relationship is right, is it wrong to test it out anyway? I mean this person makes me kind of nervous and I find myself stealing glances at him. I look at him and think, this guy really likes me? Really? Damn and mmm *sigh all at the same time. Feelings I can't really put into words. He isn't my typical "type" but I think it is time to step out of the box considering my "type" hasn't worked yet. I also have to remind myself that he isn't trying to play me like many other guys and let my wall down there. My head knows it my heart needs to open up again. One question that replays over and over in my head is: What do I want?!?!? It is hard to answer this question. So do I give it a try? Not sure I want to say this to you readers but I think it is a relevant question. Are my hormones just getting the best of me? It is hard for this to sound as completely nonsexual as I want it to but... in a nonsexual way... am I just looking for the feeling of physical touch again?
I can't help but to continue asking: If I question whether or not to date this person, is it the wrong person? Is it really as easy as "just knowing it?" Good god I am driving myself nuts! I just can't help it. I can't turn my brain off. But really, if I question it so much is it a bad idea or am I taking the smart approach? AHH!!
So much going on in my head (if you couldn't tell). Sorry this is so long and thank you for reading. Any suggestions are welcome.
Listening to A Fine Frenzy today. You should too.
Be optimistic about love.
ReplyDeleteMany of my clients are so frustrated with dating, and they want to give up. Some are "serial daters," going out with a different person each night of the week, while others sit around waiting for love to find them. In both cases, they've had zero success.
No matter what you do, you won't be successful in love if you have a sour attitude about it. There is someone special out there for you, and you have to believe that wholeheartedly. Be optimistic about love, and your dreams will become a reality.
Rather than think negatively about dating, consider the following:
1. Know that there are thousands of singles in the world. All you have to do is log into an online-dating Web site to witness the variety of people to choose from. You are not alone in this world.
2. Don't think there's nothing appealing about you, because everyone has strong attributes. Your personality, talents, and achievements are unique, and will make you just right for someone else.
3. They say you have to kiss a lot of toads before your find your prince (or princess), and this is true. Don't throw in the towel after a few failures. Keep looking.
4. Trust in the universe, for it has a plan. Maybe you haven't found true love because that person has yet to come into your life. Don't rush into finding love, for it will come when you least expect it.
Final Thoughts
If you want to be optimistic about love, you have to change the way you think. No one said dating was easy, but it's not impossible either. Know that there are many singles out there, and one is just right for you. Whatever you do, have patience with the process, and don't expect immediate gratification. Take each day as it comes, and you may be pleasantly surprised.